You could be emotionally burnt out.
Cognitive behavioral therapists believe care giver personalities tend to have an increased risk of emotional burnout because they generally have a tendency to:
- Gain self esteem through the approval of others
- Carry problems home by worrying about others well being outside of work hours.
- A belief that they can help others and don’t require anything in return
Care givers who believe they are indispensable also tend to not take regular breaks or holidays. They also tend to take on more responsibilities. When asked if they would like to be relieved from their duties, they make excuses to hold onto the task. Care giving personalities also tend to set very high expectations of themselves and reject offers to assist. All these risky behaviors lead to emotional burnout.
People at risk also have a tendency to believe the following two irrational statements:
- The Home Care Recipient or direct manager would never make it without me
- I don’t need anyone but everyone needs me
When care givers emotionally burnout they tend to:
- act with a sudden loss of interest in their work or lack of direction
- become angry or depressive
- show signs of physical exhaustion and increased illnesses
- lose commitment and display behaviors resulting in unreliability
- Search for alternative employment or quit their jobs to take time out for themselves before entering into the workplace.
- Not trust others to carry out the same standard of work
Unfortunately, the symptoms above continue in a circular fashion unless they understand the root cause of the issue. In the office setting, the care giver personality profile tends to take more and more responsibility for tasks without setting personal limits or adequately protecting themselves.
If you, or someone you know displays the symptoms above, let them know it’s OK to let go, it’s just as important to take time out for themselves as it is to care for others. Above all, trust that learning to invite others in to relieve the burden will end the painful cycle.